25 March 2017

Mothering

Mothering is indescribable, it cannot be confine into a single word
It's meaning is varied and comes with many tags. 

Mothering is baking without being a baker
it is tutoring without being a teacher
It is making things without being a trained skilled worker
It is mending without being a Taylor 
It is crafting without being a trained craftsman
It is painting and drawing without being an artist 
It is designing without being a designer 
It is telling jokes without being a comedian 
It is dancing without being a dancer
It is mending wounds without being a doctor.
It is being a counsellor without being a lawyer
It is being a guard without being a security agent
It is cooking without being a trained chef. 
Mothering is seeing all things without being God
It is pretending to be bat man without watching the movie. 
It is having 12 children and loving them all in the different ways with one big heart

Mothering is a joy,
A chore
An adventure 

Mothering is not the toughest job in the world it's the only job where we can be all things to our children - that makes it the most intricate job. 

It is a fine balancing act between being a human being and super human being

It is crying and laughing at the same time, 

Mothering is the only job where you watch your heart work out the door every single day and somehow still stays alive. 
Mothers never retire, 
Never give up hope
Always believed 
Forever loves 

A mother's is a steady hand, guiding, holding, rocking. 

If mothering was a paid job none would apply 
Because the salary will never be enough. 

Mother simply means is to me 
Making - others
Magnifying - others
Moulding - others

Because they constantly make others better, beautiful, abled, and fulfilled… , 


Happy Mother's Day. 


Making 
Others
Terrific 
Happy
Enablers
Restorers 🌝today and always

Alone, Not Lonely

I love my alone time, pre kids days I cherish times before dawn when I plug into the word. Fast forward a few years and those days are a distant memory. Now, I use every minute I am alone for chores or to get the much needed rest. Thanks to being a mother. 

In an age where we are always surrounded by something it is almost impossible to be alone by ourselves doing the things we love. There are so much distraction in today's world. 
It was only a few years ago we had 5 News channel, we did alright and had a little bit of control over
what we watch. Now we are constantly being fed news, and information 24/7.


We are always connected to some form of social medial platform, yet research shows that the number of people reported as being lonely is on the rise. We have never felt more lonely than now. We are connected yet disconnected. What a tragedy of living

How do we get so lonely when we are never alone? Why have we succumb to the lure of being constantly connected that we have become isolated? Why would we rather comment on our neighbors Facebook post than knock on their door to say hello? Who sold us this way of living? 
There's a different way to being alone without being lonely, being in prayer -and alone with God. 
Jesus found time to be alone amidst the distractions of living, it was almost impossible for him to go away by himself as he was in constant demand.

In Matthew 14:13-23, we saw how he went away by himself only for the crowed to follow him. After meeting their needs, he did manage to get away by himself. He knew that his alone time with His Father was the key to his success for daily living. 

What about you? What's your key to success? 

Reading motivational books? 
Playing motivational music? 
Attending motivational conferences?
Going to places of worship? 
Building a strong social network? 
Being seen in all the important places? 

These are all good, but without connecting to the source of life our efforts will be in vain. 


Make 2017 the year of reconnecting to your source, the creator of the universe, call Him a force, a Power, A Being, regardless,  He's there waitiing for you. 


I have decided to take back control of my time, and my way of living. I have decided to go back to being along for the right reasons.
I miss my alone time with my best friend and saviour, so now as my kids grow older, i sneak in a few moments of connecting with Him.

My alone time has been of great benefit in these areas.

I am better prepared for the day ahead.
He directs my path as I become tuned to his guidance.
He fills me with strength for the days, so no matter what is happening around me I know he's got my back.
He's a constant present when I need help.
I find joy and peace in his presence, two commodities that are expensive to find in social media. 
I am never alone as he always talks with me and I with him.


As we wine down 2016, spend the last few days reconnecting with Him.  Resolve to seek his guidance for each and every day of 2017.

Most people will go to parties, church, fire work display. At the risk of being a joy killer, I want to encourage you to finish the year just as you would finish each day, in quiet contemplation and gratitude


Find an alone time to build up your inner man, for the year ahead. 


Happy New Year. 










23 December 2016

No Strings Attached Love





In a world where our love is conditional on what others do for us it isn’t often we find unconditional love. 

Every morning, as I get my kids ready for school or during the drive to school,  l try to set the tone for the day with encouraging and motivating words. After telling them they are, awesome, kind and so on… I tell them how much I love them.
At home one day , one of my daughters took me by surprised when she asked,  mummy, what if I don’t do kind things today will you still love me?. 

That came out of the blue. I have never thought about loving her because she cleans her room or does kind things I just know that I love her… even before she was born. 


But she has taken my love for her to be conditioned on doing my bidding

I hugged her and said. “I loved you from the day you were conceived”. I did not need to seen you but I loved you. And when you were born I loved you even more… So whether you do all I asked or not, (I may not love what you do, but I do love you), she gave me a big hug and said “I love you mummy”. 


My daughters did not do anything to deserve my love, when they were helpless little babies who caused us many sleepless nights, cried none stopped when left alone, we loved them no less than we do now. It was a No Strings Attached Love. It was pure, undefiled and deep.

My love for my kids grows each day and it is not conditional on anything they do or don’t do… I hope it stays that way because as humans as our kids grow we may not like the changes and things we see. 

This got me thinking, God's love never fails, it's as strong and intense from the moment he thought about us. However, it is sometimes tempting to misinterpret the instructions in the bible as the basis for God's love for us….

God's love is not conditional on anything you do or will ever do… It is a No Strings Attached Love. Simple and Pure Unconditional Love.
If his love was based on what we do or has done, we stood no chance, hence he made a choice to love us before we love him. He Loved us before we Loved him.... profound.

It was his love for us that brought him down to earth… we had gone away from our heavenly father that he wanted us back to himself. So he came in the form of a man to bring us back to himself. 

While we were still in sin, in our wicked ways, Christ died for us”, this is love, nothing is. That he loved us just the way we are. It never ceases to amaze me that it was “While” we were still sinners… we were dirty, downright untouchable… only the God kind of love will embrace us the way we are. 

Religion today has placed all kinds of conditions on God's love, but no: it is unconditional, with no strings attached.

His love is so pure, he had to born by a virgin.
His birth brought us hope, his life showed us the way to live. 
His death brought ransomed us 
his resurrection brought us life.. 
this Christmas we celebrate hope, a new way of life, 
reconciliation with the father 
and love so amazing so unconditional, so divine.

At Christmas, this is what I celebrate a love that keeps giving and loving.

As you celebrate, Reflect on this love and know that he loves you just the way you are.

Dear Father, thank you for the gift of Jesus, 
Thank you for loving me the way you do
Unconditionally, relentlessly and recklessly.
Thank you that this love is endless.
Amen.

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