29 March 2014


Not long ago it was international women's day and today we are celebrating Mother's Day. 
I had a conversation recently, it was on the challenges faced by women, the conversation centred on how we've been created. Our monthly cycles, our ability to carry & bear children and how these are disadvantageous to women. 
Well society has disadvantaged women based on these, our make up was not created to disadvantage women in any way. 

These got me thinking, women have not always been celebrated, it wasn't long ago that women were given right to vote, were allowed jobs, can get an education. 
Today governments in most parts of the world are working hard to ensure that women are fairly and equally treated. 
Recently in Italy a group called for the stay at home mums to be recognised and rewarded by the state. These all indicates how far we've come. 

The struggle goes on, as in many parts of the world women are still viewed to worth nothing more than a baby making machine, while many are been trafficked for one form of salivary or the next. 
As we celebrate Mother's Day, let's celebrate women in all her glories, let's all lend our voices to the struggle to be treated fairly & equally, let's not lose sight of the greater vision, freedom for all women, for 
a woman abused is a future robed of honesty
A woman misused is a talent misplaced
A woman undervalued is a like diamond trampled under foot. 
Recognise women for who they truly are
Gifted in equal measure, although bequeathed differently
Made stronger by life's challenges 
Endured with talents and gifts
She's a vessel of many fine things. 

and like a rose, she blossoms revealing many beautiful colours. 
She's entertaining, enduring, alluring, 
A builder of character, 
A bringer of peace, 
She emits a serenity around her amidst chaos, 
She gives passion where needed 
Hope when required
And dedication at all times. 
Her worth cannot be measured in financial rewards, 
but in the selfless acts of love behind clothes doors,  

Celebration of a woman is the celebration of a mother, a sister, an Aunty, a niece, it's a celebration of the present behind human birth. Ignore a woman and you are ignoring one of your own. 

Happy Mothers Day. 

9 March 2014


I have been looking behind a lot lately, at what might have been if I had done certain things. In the past weeks I looked behind so much that I worked up a headache. Looking behind and wishing we would could have done somethings better is a normal process of our existence, show me someone who has not at one point in their live looked behind and I will show you a liar. 
Looking behind is called retrospection. Why do we go back to the past? We want to attain certain heights in our lives and falling this brings regret.,

Looking behind with regret leads only to one thing pain, sadness, gloom bad headache. 
For instance I wanted to complete my exams while on maternity leave, having gone back to work without achieving this. I deemed it necessary to regret this act cos in my small mind of forgetfulness I thought I had more time while I was at home. NOT. I forgot the sleepless nights which are still ongoing, the, endless chores that comes with tending to babies. So my regrets are pointless.... I have stopped looking back with regrets and now I look forward with vision, faith and hope. 

What do you look back on when you view your life over a period of time. The I wish I have done so and so, the I wish I haven't. 
Lay the past to rest, let go of the pain regret brings and look forward with hope and zeal.
The future is ahead, fresh and untainted. As the morning due and mist gives away to a bright day so too will the mist of regret move away to bring in a bright day. 
Set your gaze not on what coulda been but on what is possible. 
As you get up each day envisage the possibilities which lie ahead. 

Hindsight is good in retrospect, but foresight is needed for introspection. 
Remember the things which are seem are temporal, but the things which are not seem are eternal. 
Forgive yourself of the deliberate and unconscious mistakes of the past, press forward and onward to that which your foresight has envisage, dream it, live it and attain it. 
Regretting Rob us of gratitude, if you feel there's something in your past you could have done differently, do it now if you still can, if you can't do it, repent of it and forgive yourself. 
Whatever you do, move on, do not stay in the place which robs you of joy.
Reach forth to the things ahead.