9 August 2010

Memories

What do you feel when you remember the loss/losses you've suffered? Do you feel sad and helpless? Does remembering rekindles the pain?
Losses of any kind are painful, be it the loss of a child, a parent, a sibling, a job, business or a house, whatever, losses are not pleasant.
But after a while, the pain of the loss/losses passes (I hope), and is replaced with only memories of what we suffered and how we to pulled through.

A year ago I suffered a couple of losses one of which is the loss of my dad, looking back now I remembered the pain of those losses and marvel at how I pulled through. one year on the pain has been replaced with fond memories of my loving dad. The pain was painful (if there's a phrase like that), it was horrible, but that was then. Pain are for a season, we are build to feel pain, sorrow and sadness, but we are not expected to stay in the place of pain and dwell in the land of questions like why me, what next, when Lord?


We are meant to bounce back stronger and better than we were before our losses.

So have you suffered a loss?
Does the pain become real again on the anniversary of the loss?
Do you still feel sorrowful?


Sad as your loss was or is, you are meant to bounce back and not remain in the place of pain.
Do whatever you have to do to bounce back, go for counselling, do something to move pass the place of pain into the place where you can remember not with pain, or sorrow but with a sense of gratitude that you pulled through.

We cannot erase the past, but we can look on the past and smile at our resilience and our ability to weather the storms of our past demise.

So straight from my heart
is this piece to encouraging you to move on purposefully to a place were memories become spring board to hope and dream again.

7 comments:

David C Brown said...

I suppose there is no loss in which the Lord Jesus cannot make up for us more than we lost -if we keep close to Him. In His strength we can be stronger after the event.

Misstarii said...

Thank you for the encouragement

Olufunke said...

So sorry about the death of your Dad.
Like you said, it all gets better with time

When I lost our house and ALL I ever owned...I learn t to live one day at a time and now I can look back and just remember how I passed through that season, and off course I still believe Go personally carried out through that time.

Rita said...

Remembered when you shared the post about your dad. Now see how time is moving on. I love the encouraging piece that comes straight from your heart.

How have you been?

Kafo said...

I am reminded of Paul writing to the church in Corinth

he says
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.

and so on the days when the pain hits i try and focus on that which is unseen

seye said...

Wow.Strong words of encouragement!

Beth in NC said...

I don't know how people make it through anything without Jesus. He is our hope and the lifter of our heads.

Bless you!
Beth